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hi, everyone. how have your holidays been treating you? ups?… 
28th-Dec-2008 08:58 pm
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hi, everyone.

how have your holidays been treating you? ups? downs? bad reactions to stress? good reactions to time off or family?

this can be a tumultuous time of year, and it would be great to hear what everyone else has been up to.
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29th-Dec-2008 06:38 am (UTC) - A NOVEL OF HOW THINGS HAVE BEEN
our christmas was pretty good, actually! my man started getting really stressed out because my dad's car broke, which he is borrowing, broke down twice, so he had to spend an assload of time with his parents to get around, and we spent christmas day with them. his dad used to beat the everloving shit out of him and his siblings, and is still a verbally/psychologically abusive man, so that was... um. really bad and triggering for him. then the dude had to go off and play power games with me during the present opening and during dinner, which really fucked with me because it triggered ME about my own abusive exboyfriend, so uh, yeah, THAT WAS DUMB. we are determined to really spend as little time with his father as possible from now on.

my man is just now starting to recover from the stress of the holidays but things have been pretty good between US, at least. very few meltdowns, mostly just apologizing over and over and over again for things but he snaps out rather quickly. he hasn't been able to sleep for more than six hours in the past three days because of his night job and having to travel around to see family and blah blah blah, but right now he is fast asleep, awwww.

wow thank you for making this post so i could talk about this! i had more to say than i thought. how were things with YOU this holiday?! :)
3rd-Jan-2009 12:10 am (UTC) - Re: A NOVEL OF HOW THINGS HAVE BEEN
wow, it sounds like you guys have a lot to deal with just by SEEING your family (well, his family). i'm glad the two of you came through it with your relationship unscathed.

my holidays went well. dad and step mom drove up from southern california (we live in the central valley)and stayed a few days for an early family christmas. this was our first christmas in a new house, and aside from some unfortunate incidents with close friends around thanksgiving, it's been nice settling in and getting things the way we want them. we had our own christmas, then another with my mom/step-dad/younger sisters, then ANOTHER with her family. my girlfriend and i have been together for around 3 1/2 years, but i met her brother for the first time after christmas when he flew in from south dakota. i think his visit was the hardest part of the season. he's a smelly, selfish alcoholic, and i vacillated between biting my tongue for my own sake and keeping quiet for hers. it was like living with a drunken, dreadlocked 12 year old for a week, and while i was excited to meet him, i'm glad he's gone.
i do feel bad for her, though, because i think this visit has done some irreparable damage to their relationship, and she spent months looking forward to seeing him.
all in all a good holiday that everyone emerged unscathed from.
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