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partners of those who suffer from a psychiatric disorder
2nd-Jan-2009 11:59 am
I joined this community months ago but I havent plucked up courage to post yet, and have been lurking a little to see what the site was like. Anyway, this is my situation:

30s English female, living in Spain currently, my boyfriend (35) is clinically depressed, has been (officially) for 3 years but has always been not totally stable. Takes an SNRI medication (effexor), has lots of side effects (headaches, dizziness), sees a kind of counsellor here every few weeks, not anticipating stopping the meds any time soon, which worries me because I want a longterm future with him but it is a lot to deal with.  He hasnt made any serious suicide attempts but it is something he talks about and I know it may well happen.
Have had lots of support from other forums but they are mostly inhabited by the sufferers, rather than the people who put up with it all at home. I could really do with friendly ears who know some of what I'm going through.
BTW I am a very private person and really shy so I wont be one of those members that posts every day about every intimate detail of my life, because I just cant do that. I dont have a problem with people that can do that, I admire their openess. I will share factual stuff but I am not so good with pouring out my emotions.

Oh and Happy New Year to you all!
3rd-Jan-2009 07:32 pm (UTC)
Welcome aboard. My spouse is also on Effexor and has similar side effects. I sound like a broken record with this, but if you haven't already, I highly recommend picking up a copy of Anne Sheffield's book "How You Can Survive When They're Depressed." It helped me a lot in understanding what's common, what to expect, and what I should and shouldn't be willing to put up with.
5th-Jan-2009 08:01 pm (UTC)
Thanks for replying! I found one of your posts earlier, sounds like you have gone through a hard time, hope things are getting better for you. I will try to get hold of that book but it's not always easy in Spain. Hope you dont mind if I add you? Nice to know someone knows where I am coming from.
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