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Ok, so I'm posting much sooner than i thought i would.I feel like I… 
4th-Sep-2006 04:53 am
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Ok, so I'm posting much sooner than i thought i would.I feel like I just need to get some stuff out and get some feedback. About a month ago, my girlfriend Vicki and I had a fight of sorts related to some sexual stuff. She felt inadequate for some reason that I couldn't fathom and one night when I was hanging out with my friends it all came out over text messages and led to this fight that lasted a couple days. Then tonight I was hanging out with the same friends and it all came back. it started because I had made a comment that i had talked to them both about the problems we had had as well as the fight itself that night, which prompted her to say that it was none of their goddamn business, ever. I'm a very open person and like to get things out for discussion and get feedback on them (like now) but she tends to shove it to the side and just get angry instead, a response whihc i have trouble dealing with, but usually just try to let slide, often at the expense of my own happiness to try to help her feel better. Tonight she brought up the comment that i had made, and after saying that it wasn't their business and going back and forth for a bit, said that it wasn't worth it and that I shouldn't worry about it cause it was easier to just forget us entirely. I talked her down from that, though she was still in a horrible mood last i heard. All I could do was keep saying how much I cared about her and that I had no intention to leave her or anything of that sort, and that giving up now would be denying any sort of chance at happiness etc. She eventually said that she felt stupid, which is more or less the equivalent of her saying she knows she's over-reacting, but doesnt know what to do about it. I just care about her so much and it's so hard to go through these situations. Imean, I can be mad, but that doesn't change that i love her and doesn't make me think that breaking it off would solve anything. Anyway, I was just wondering if anyone had gone through similar situations, how they dealt with it, if they thought I did ok with it, and any helpful info on how to diffuse a situation like this in the future. I'll keep everyone updated on us too, but yeah, that was my fun filled night.
5th-Sep-2006 10:21 am (UTC)
Thanks for the feedback and advice. I really appreciate it. It was looking as though I was going to have to report back that we'd broken up, but we were able to talk through things and we're okay now.
5th-Sep-2006 10:30 am (UTC)
Phew. That must have been frightening. I'm glad you're doing okay now. Communication's a great thing. :)
5th-Sep-2006 09:09 pm (UTC)
I've always thougt so :)
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